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People often conflate two kinds of "don't change the world, change yourself":
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* The gaslighting way:
** "You're an idiot for talking about the fact that there's a [[housing]] shortage! Just get rich so you can afford a house!"
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* The legit way:
** If we want to abolish factory farms, we're going to have to [[plant-based|eat less meat]] on average.
** If we want to dismantle systemic racism, we have to be mindful of our own biases.
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The main difference is:
* The legit way recognizes how systemic problems arise from millions of individual behaviors, and sees how we can change those behaviors.
* The gaslighting way promotes a zero-sum game: Instead of actually solving the systemic problem, it just gets everyone fighting for the privileged spot where you can be unaffected by the problem.